Feel your feelings

Maybe it's my age, maybe it's a result of all the therapy I've done (does this mean it's finally paying off?!), but I'm officially in my feeling my feelings era. If you follow the Project on Instagram, I shared that I was having a real moment of missing my Mom's love. I lit a candle that I keep in front of pictures of her, and cried.  I ugly cried for maybe five minutes and then I felt better.

As I sat at my desk trying to ready myself for a busy work day, I realized that instead of judging myself for grieving which is my go-to move, I just felt my feelings. I know now, after years of trying to avoid them whenever possible, that it's the only way through. I encourage you to sit with your feelings, in whatever form that takes. If you're looking for more information on grief rituals, there are many out there. And it doesn't have to be anything elaborate. After years of denying that I was grieving, I try to bring my Mom into more parts of my life now. Having pictures of her on my desk is one small way I keep her close and it makes me feel less alone in a world that keeps telling me my grief isn't important.   Our grief is important. Don’t forget that, ok?

xo Janet